Articles: The Daddy Diaries

I am truly thankful for being given the opportunity by G.R.E.Ed.S to document my experiences for the fatherhood website The Daddy Diaries a few weeks before my child was going to be born. Although I was going to be a father, I never felt I had the time or brain space to document the feelings/experiences I was taking in as a dad-to-be. I pushed that idea to the back of my head. I just wanted to make sure that my wife was being looked after and that we had everything ready and prepared for our new arrival.

So when Yomi approached me to write the first Daddy Diaries post, my opportunist self discussed it with my wife and she told him to do it. I could possibly help inspire and help other fathers/fathers-to-be, to be better educated about parenthood and all that comes with it. I couldn’t turn down such an opportunity. Yomi’s enthusiasm and positivity about me doing it totally sealed the deal. This has also led to me writing more fatherhood articles for Nupé and DadzClub. He hasn’t looked back since!

Date of Entry – January 31st 2012
Week 38
By Kamran Assadi
Location: UK
“So my wife is at the 38 week stage of her first pregnancy and I’m about to fulfil one of my personal dreams – I’m going to start up my own family and be a father. And I can’t wait! This baby can come anytime between now and February 13th. *bites fingernails in anticipation* Over 30 weeks ago, I found out that my wife was pregnant. To tell the truth, I have no shame in saying that I didn’t have that cliché feeling of being happy and over the moon.”
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Date of Entry – Feb 5th 2012
End of Week 38/Start of Week 39
By Kamran Assadi
Location: UK
“So a lot has changed since my first well-received #DaddyDiaries entry earlier this week as we near Week 39 of the proposed 40 weeks.
No matter what anyone says, I’m getting nearer and nearer to that special Birth Day, and I can’t stop that. I have welcomed my mother in law into my house for a month to help out with baby prep and looking after the baby (Big weight off my shoulders).”
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Date of Entry – Feb 9th 2012
Week 39 – The Birth
By Kamran Assadi
Location: UK
“So after all my hopes, wishes and thoughts about how this pregnancy would be, today ended up being the day!
My wife and I had spent the last month planning for this day. Our hospital bags were ready, I felt ready! And even better news was that my mom in law came over from Houston, Texas to stay with us for a month (to help us out with baby and all that).”
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Date of Entry – 2-3 weeks after the birth
By Kamran Assadi
Location: UK
“So my baby daughter Lily has been in this world for nearly 3 weeks now, and these weeks have been a test of my patience and calm resolve, but have also brought unadulterated joy and a new found love for my wife and child. Our new family is so blessed! We’ve been inundated with visiting requests and gifts from friends and family.”
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Date of Entry: Apr 13th 2012
2 months after the birth
By Kamran Assadi
Location: UK
“At times, I’ve felt like giving up and have been a bit disappointed in the mistakes I’ve made, but hey, I’m a new dad, what did this perfectionist expect? Ha! But I’m learning more about my duties and my daughter daily. My main aim is to be a good dad to my girl and to always be around as long as God wants me to be, and when things get tough, its that aim that keeps me going – it keeps me around.”
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Date of Entry: Jul 19th 2012
5 months after the birth
By Kamran Assadi
Location: UK
“I feel like the prodigal son that has come back to his home from a long voyage of discovery. This voyage encompasses fatherhood and self-discovery too! I’m glad to be writing for Daddy Diaries again, I’ve missed it so much and it is one of the places where I feel truly home!”
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Date of Entry: Oct 29th 2012
Over 8 months after the birth
By Kamran Assadi
Location: UK
“This job has been the best and worst, stressful and enjoyable, funny and emotional, yet sublime and rewarding rollercoaster of my life and I’m only 9 months into it! I haven’t even got to the teenage years yet. Being a father has tested my patience and frustration levels, given more plenty more grey hairs to contend with, constantly battle my wife on things we don’t agree with (two different opinions/mindsets don’t always agree as parents), and has really shown a mirror to my good and bad qualities in equal measure.”
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Date of Entry: Feb 5th 2013
Nearly a year after the birth
By Kamran Assadi
Location: UK
“Looking back on last year, I am grateful for two life-changing moments that allowed me to open up even more, talk about my feelings and emotions, be completely honest, and become the man I am today. These two moments were becoming a father and writing for Daddy Diaries. Becoming a dad was one of the best things to have happened to me last year. I have enjoyed each bit of it, even the bits I’ve not enjoyed because they all brought me to this point. I’ve seen my daughter grow up and become a very close baby version of me, basically she’s my baby twin!”
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Date of Entry: March 5th 2013
A year and one month after the birth
By Kamran Assadi & Linwood Darkis
Twitter – @Kamranassadi & @Crazylinwood 
Location: Texas

 

Date of Entry: Aug 27th 2013
By Kamran Assadi
Location: UK
“Being a father has been intense, enjoyable, humbling and thoroughly entertaining. But most of all, it has given me hunger and desire to be the parent that my mum was to me. To be able to pass down my wisdom, knowledge and advice to Lily and allow her to find her way through life using the morals, beliefs and values I’m trying to instil in her.”
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Date of Entry: Oct 1st 2013
By Kamran Assadi
Location: UK
“My father came to the UK in the late 1970s on a student visa to study Civil Engineering in a university in Hertfordshire. Whilst in London, he met my mother (who was a nurse at the time) and they began dating and getting to know each other. He and my mum naturally over time and through their relationship growing and blossoming – fell in love. In June 1980, they got married in a registry office and had a small intimate reception with family and friends. After being happily married for three years, my mother gave birth to me in October 1983 with my dad by her side. It seems my father got his way with giving me a full Iranian name (in Persian, Kamran means beloved and successful). Things were good. We were all in awe of each other.”
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How the Lack of Men in My Life Shaped Me…
“Although I usually talk about my daughter as I am directly her father, I myself am also a son and I do have a father myself. My upbringing and having God in my life has defined how I am around people, in particular different types of men. Growing up, I was raised around a copious amount of women.”
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My Daughter Grows Up After Testing Times…
“Okay, so my daughter has had a full-on, exciting life in her two years. Born in London in a mixed heritage household that includes Iran, Montserrat, USA and UK cultures is a very unique existence for anyone. Then you throw in the fact that she is now a dual citizen of the UK and USA with a Social Security Number and two passports is beyond crazy. She’s visited New York, New Orleans and Houston as a baby bump and as a young toddler.”
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